Moving Past Negativity

Part of my workday is spent sifting through the Internet for interesting articles relating to Independent Living, disability rights, human rights and other issues relating to the disability community.  I learn a lot by doing this: information about organizations and events as well as the newest trends in technology; unfortunately, I come across a lot of negativity as well. Not just from people who purposefully attempt to make others angry by posting inflammatory comments, but from members of the disability community.  Looking through Tumblr under the tag “disability,” I find so many blogs from people who focus entirely on the negative aspects of having a disability.

I’m not going to deny the cathartic release that can be accomplished by occasionally putting your frustrations in print, whether just for yourself or to share with others, but it shouldn’t be the only focus. Aside from not being healthy only to dwell on the negative, we have to think about the impact we have on others. Many of the misery-filled posts are public and can easily be found by people that are looking for a peer, someone who has gone through/is going through a similar experience. If all they see are posts filled with doom and gloom, that is not going to be very encouraging. If, however, there are posts peppered in that more accurately reflect reality (good days vs. bad days, accomplishments, etc.) it could potentially help give some perspective and be, not to sound too optimistic, beneficial for the disability community.

I think it’s important to remember the moments that are uplifting in one’s day.  It could be a small victory, something new learned, or even just a new insight. These are the things that can help people connect and learn from one another. Keeping things in perspective will help keep us focused and might, in my opinion, even help stave off some depression.  Sharing is important; that sense of catharsis is important, but the toll that it can take on ourselves and our friends and supporters can be great. It’s easy to find bad things, but more rewarding to share the good ones.

What do you think?

 

5 thoughts on “Moving Past Negativity”

  1. Purging your soul of negativity is an essential part of what we must do to ensure sanity, respect for ourselves, and to keep our blood pressure down!! If you have a technique, writing your negative thoughts down on paper or typing keys to create a message which can be transmitted to many via internet, then by all means – practice this mechanism & frequently!

    I am an internationally published poet – in 13 private label hardback books – and can assure you, I have utilized the concept of putting negativity on paper many times – almost as if I were reaching into my soul, one letter at at time, to remove the darkness from within – transmit it to paper – and pull it out of me by sharing it with many people with whom I gratefully am able share my poetry once it is completed.

    I commend you on learning this technique – it really does work.

    I liked your article.

    Aaron

  2. Point of view! Was this negative of me or positive? I ran an allotment from my wheelchair ad this day had only an hour to spare for weeding,that was the day the wheelchair tipped over sideways and i ended up on the grass path. I had to be elsewhere very shortly and hadf to take a decision.

    Did i right the wheelchair, somehow push it and at the same time drag myself along the path to where i could haul myself up into the chair, or wait until the man I’d previously seen taking the lawn mower up to the far end of the allotments to cut the grass paths reached me, thus missing my interview! I chose the latter course of inaction. While I was waiting I got on with the weeding, much easier at close quarters. Negative or positive?

  3. i think this was a good article. Many people have a misconception of disabled persons. Some are biased probably. But I really don’t care what they think. Some people think in order to qualify for being disabled, that you are in a wheel chair, or quadriplegic. This certainly is not the case. There are many types of disabilities and through education this perception could change. I don’t believe persons with disabilities need to be shut ins and excluded from any and all types of activities. I ride a 4 wheeler, I have had people say, “you can do that with your disability”. Yes I can, many disabled persons can ride a ATV. Activities keep your mind in a positive state and foster a great self worth.

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