What Bad Mood?

Everyone has bad moods. We have all had moments in our lives that caused us pain. Good moods are great, but they don’t last; on the other hand, neither do bad moods. So, how do you get over being in a bad mood?

Say, for example, you are in a foul mood and you are at a party. What do you do about it? You have some options: one being to leave the situation, a different option would be attending the party in a bad mood, and another would be to move past it.

Experiencing feelings and acting on them are completely different. In anger, there are feelings of pain or frustration, but one doesn’t necessarily need to act on those feelings by throwing things or yelling at the top of their lungs (well, at least, mature adults don’t do these things). Acknowledging that you are in a particular mood is a fantastic skill, allowing yourself to solve problems effectively. Knowing how to recognize feelings is the key, and it takes a lot of work and practice.

Once you recognize what is happening, then it’s time to decide what your next action will be. No matter how much someone has upset you or things aren’t going the way you planned, you only have control over yourself. You can’t change what others say to you, or how other people act, or even what people think. Given that, in order to change your mood, you have to decide what you want the end result to be. Do you want to stay pissed off and be in a bad mood that will possibly affect the people around you? Or, do you want to acknowledge your feelings, deal with the original problem, and find a way to have a good time? The great thing is that you have all the control. No one else can tell you to be in a better mood, you have to want it, and you have to grab it.

**Has there been a time when you were upset but it wasn’t appropriate for you to act out on those feelings? How were you able to move past those feelings in order to enjoy yourself?

 

5 thoughts on “What Bad Mood?”

  1. Ironic that you publish this one this last couple days, I have been dealing with a situation very much in context.

    Actually, 2 examples this past week. One for example:

    Friday evening I was 12 row center of a concert in Camden, NJ. I took out my $500 smart phone to text a friend I had lost in the crowd.

    Sent the text, put it on my lap. 2 minutes later stood up to go out to isle to get a little closer. Just seconds later tapped my pocket to realize my phone was gone.

    Went back to that seat, frantically looking for it in the dark, in the middle of a loud concert. The gentleman next to me, a younger attendee than I, turned to me and said, “Man, it’s only a phone, enjoy the show”.

    Well, although I was still concerned obviously, and it took a couple minutes, I had to talk myself out of this anxiety and worry about my business droid, and enjoy what I was there for.

    This kid inspired me, it kinda slapped my in the face, as I am usually the voice of rationale and inspiration. hahah

    How was I able to move past it? With a little help.. Simple as that I think…

    After the show, the phone was gone. I plucked a kind strangers phone out of the crowd after and called it, first 2 times, no answer.

    The third, a sweet, sweet young lady answered and said, ” I hope this makes your day, I have your phone”.

    Good stuff, it is being shipped to me…

    Just goes to show, it all turned out okay, but almost did ruin my evening if I would have let it.

    In fact, the weekend with my wife and kids was even that much more enjoyable without a tether to my office and work.

    Great article Sarah!

  2. That’s awesome insight, Ron! Yeah, sometimes I think I get wrapped up in the things that go wrong, that I don’t enjoy myself, or I let it ruin the good time. I’m glad you met the younger fella’ that put it into perspective for you, and I’m glad you got to enjoy the show, oh, and that you found your phone–how cool is that? Also, I think you nailed it–to put it into perspective..yeah, it’s just a phone, worst case scenario you get a new one. I always think worst case, and think, everyone’s okay..no one got hurt..it can be fixed, it’s just a minor inconvenience. So kudos to you!

  3. Thank you, Tamika! I love that. Smiling does make us feel better, isn’t funny how something so simple can make us feel so good? It’s a great reminder. Here’s a big, ear-to-ear smile to you!

  4. Apropos smiling………………there’s a message I sent Renae and now that i think of it it’s under PM so I think i’ll copy & paste it here at least the part on smiling (after this though).
    About the article, yes, it is very good, and yes, it made me feel like a stupid little girl, like THE stupid little girl I was some decades ago, having fits, throwing stuff around till eventually something went broken…or I hurt myself…..
    ‘Experiencing’ and ‘acting’ can have different meanings to you and can apply to Ron’s stuation because none of you suffer from manic-depressive disorder, also known as bi-polar disorder. I do, and believe me I would have not enjoyed the concert I would have experienced ‘anxiety’ for not having my precious phone with me the whole weekend long. But I must say, luckily the medicaments nowadays do wonders, and the amount of anxiety, panic, or simple uneasiness, as well as overexcitement can be fairly decreased and the mood swings stabilized. Thank you Sarah for the very enlightening article.

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