Everyone has bad moods. We have all had moments in our lives that caused us pain. Good moods are great, but they don’t last; on the other hand, neither do bad moods. So, how do you get over being in a bad mood?
Say, for example, you are in a foul mood and you are at a party. What do you do about it? You have some options: one being to leave the situation, a different option would be attending the party in a bad mood, and another would be to move past it.
Experiencing feelings and acting on them are completely different. In anger, there are feelings of pain or frustration, but one doesn’t necessarily need to act on those feelings by throwing things or yelling at the top of their lungs (well, at least, mature adults don’t do these things). Acknowledging that you are in a particular mood is a fantastic skill, allowing yourself to solve problems effectively. Knowing how to recognize feelings is the key, and it takes a lot of work and practice.
Once you recognize what is happening, then it’s time to decide what your next action will be. No matter how much someone has upset you or things aren’t going the way you planned, you only have control over yourself. You can’t change what others say to you, or how other people act, or even what people think. Given that, in order to change your mood, you have to decide what you want the end result to be. Do you want to stay pissed off and be in a bad mood that will possibly affect the people around you? Or, do you want to acknowledge your feelings, deal with the original problem, and find a way to have a good time? The great thing is that you have all the control. No one else can tell you to be in a better mood, you have to want it, and you have to grab it.
**Has there been a time when you were upset but it wasn’t appropriate for you to act out on those feelings? How were you able to move past those feelings in order to enjoy yourself?